Night Wakings: Why Your Toddler Is Suddenly Up at 2AM

It’s 2AM. Again. Your toddler is standing by your bed wide awake, eyes gleaming, ready for a conversation about dinosaurs or toast. If this scene sounds familiar, you’re not alone — toddler night wakings are incredibly common and incredibly exhausting.

In this blog, we’ll explore the most common reasons toddlers wake during the night, how to handle those wake-ups gently and effectively, and when it might be time to ask for extra support.

At Calm Babies, we’ve helped thousands of Aussie families across Melbourne and beyond get back to peaceful nights — without harsh sleep training or tears. Let’s get into it.

Why Do Toddlers Wake Up at Night?

While night waking is expected in newborns, it can catch parents off guard when their 18-month-old or 2-year-old suddenly starts popping up in the middle of the night. Here’s what could be going on:

1. Developmental Leaps and Milestones

Toddlers are learning language, mastering movement, and becoming more emotionally aware. All of this brain development can cause what’s often called a sleep regression, typically around 18 months and 2 years.

🧠 They’re growing fast — and their sleep often takes a temporary hit.

2. Separation Anxiety

Around 18–24 months, toddlers become more aware that you’re a separate person — and they’re not thrilled about it. Night waking can be a way of checking in or seeking reassurance.

👉 Learn more about creating security at bedtime in our Mastering Sleep Training Guide.

3. Overtiredness (Or Too Much Day Sleep)

If your toddler is resisting bedtime, waking early, or staying awake for long periods overnight, it could be a sign their sleep schedule needs adjusting. Toddlers between 1–3 years usually need:

• Around 11–12 hours of overnight sleep
• 1 nap during the day, typically 1–2 hours

4. Sleep Associations

If your toddler is used to falling asleep with a bottle, rocking, or cuddling, they might struggle to settle independently during natural night wakings.

That doesn’t mean you have to ditch the cuddles altogether — it just means introducing new sleep habits that help them feel secure and empowered.

5. Big Life Changes

A new sibling, starting daycare, moving house — toddlers are sensitive to change. Even toilet training can disrupt sleep!

If your toddler is adjusting to something big, give it a few weeks before making major sleep changes.

How to Handle Toddler Night Wakings

Stay Calm and Consistent

When your toddler wakes, keep interactions low-key. Speak gently, avoid turning on bright lights, and guide them back to sleep with minimal stimulation.

Reassure, Then Reset

It’s okay to offer reassurance, especially if your child is scared or upset. But avoid lengthy conversations or new routines in the middle of the night (e.g., letting them watch TV or get a snack).

Set Up a Solid Bedtime Routine

A predictable, calming wind-down before bed sets the stage for better sleep. Include:

• Bath or wipe down
• Calm play or reading
• Dim lights
• A consistent bedtime between 6:30–8:00pm

📘 Need help creating a bedtime routine that works? Our Mastering Sleep Training Guide is packed with expert tips.

Limit Late-Day Stimulation

Avoid screen time or sugary snacks in the hour before bed. Instead, opt for quiet play, puzzles, or bedtime stories.

Watch for Teething or Illness

Sometimes night waking has a physical cause. Check for teething signs, fevers, or ear infections, especially if the wake-ups are sudden and intense.

If you’re ever unsure, always check in with your GP or local child health nurse.

When to Ask for Help

Some night waking is normal, but if it’s becoming disruptive to your family’s wellbeing or you’re feeling burnt out, support is available.

Signs you might benefit from sleep support:

• Frequent night wakes lasting more than 20–30 minutes
• Inability to resettle without your presence
• Sleep struggles lasting more than 2–3 weeks
• Daytime crankiness or overtiredness

🧡 We offer 1:1 phone consultations for families Australia-wide, plus in-home support in Melbourne — tailored to your toddler’s unique needs.

They don’t last forever

Toddler night wakings can feel endless, but they don’t last forever. With the right tools, a consistent routine, and a little patience, you can help your child sleep through the night and wake up rested.

Explore more resources:

• Settled Sleep Guide
• Why Won’t My Baby Sleep Through the Night?
• Transitioning your toddler to a bed guide

📌 For parenting insights backed by expert advice, check out Raising Children Network, Australia’s go-to resource for families.